Used to Love

With the new year only one day way I have had many conversations on what 2009 was like and what 2010 will be like. There were talks of money. Talks of starting businesses, eating healthy, getting a new job and of course finding that special someone.

That ever elusive special someone. that true love, That soul mate. But it made me think of how many of us thought we found that person in 2009. The long phone conversations, the flirty text and the facebook post with the hidden messages. So it made me think what happened? Why are so many looking for that heart comforter when they had one already.

Many of us know where we go wrong. When we begin to love someone more than ourselves, trouble is brewing. I'm not talking about just being a fool for someone. But we all have been in gaga land and have done some bone head things when we think when were in love. We let the red flags go, we don't mind the mystery, we look away when we recognize that we are on the same road we have been on before. Why? Because this person is different?

That's the problem, we are looking for different people when we ourselves are the same person. As a matter of fact many of us are the same person just with additional baggage from our previous relationship. We love the way we used to love, we feel the way we used to feel. But we forget to love ourselves like we used to.

But how many of us feel good about ourselves before we begin to love that somebody else anyway. We just get stupid when someone give us attention. We run out and get cell phone plans that match theirs, we stay up all night just to hear there voice, we buy train tickets for romantic getaways. The problem is that we totally forget about what we need out of the relationship.

When life happens and the glow of the new new ( ya'll know whatt the new new is right?) vanishes were in trouble. All of sudden that cute jealous streak turns into an overbearing nut case. Our that wild and crazy party girl turns into a depressed alcoholic. Or maybe that confident go getter urns into that arrogant prick.

But guess what. they are who we were when we first gave them the new new. They didn't change, In fact we didn't change. The problem is simple. We bought stock in self value in another persons company. Think about it. When they value our love, we are on top of the world. Everything is great. But when they don;t see the value in our love, everything is shot to hell. Life sucks and we start to make angry twitter post.

So I want to hear a new New Years resolution. I want to hear that I am going to love me like I used to before I fell in love. Then you will recognize the real new new that you should be getting!

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Living a, extraordinary life isn't easy. But it can be done. It seems like you already know what you want and you know what you don't want. From your post it sounds like your voicing what you want to your universe. That is a life changing event in itself.

SS you have to be very careful. This is where life gets tricky. The moment where we identify areas we want changed in or areas of our life that don't create peace is a defining moment. Since your going after your happiness that moment is now.

Your absoletly right in saying that you have to get people out of your life that are holding you down. They are vices, just like any other habit in our life that doesnt create positive results in our lives. Some people are just like smoking, drinking, eating and other self indulging activitievs that when overdone can cause negative issues in our lives. They will slow you down. They take your mind away from your goal. They attack the things you love. If your loving life than guess what, they will work to create chaos in your life.

Protecting yourself from thosw vices is critical in your quest for living a life fulfilled. working towards moving away from unhealthy relationships is hard but the residual affects are incredible.

Getting your heart back or even discovering you for the first time will thrust you into a state of peace. A state that will lead youinto abundance. Peace and proseprity go hand in hand.